Jul 21, 2020

The Spaces We Give & Their Effects


What makes us humans is the fact that we can not do without each other, that's why we have families. The need for companionship, the relatives around us & the friends we keep. No man is an island meaning, we all need one another to co-exist, survive & live to see the next day because when you have nothing to loose, then you probably won't have a reason to live.

Take for example, the worst punishment you can ever give to let's say a criminal who is already serving time in a Correctional Facility for a crime he committed is Solitary Confinement. A dark room where he's cut off from every other inmates & all communications restricted. You find out that the longer it takes for that kind of privilege to be restored back, the aftermath of it all often takes a toll on them in the future. That is, if he is strong enough to silence the voices in his head or make sense of the images he creates in the dark & it will only be a matter of time before he cracks open.

Another example are those who recruit for Elite Special Forces like in the Agencies that specialize in Undercover Operations, Mercenaries for hire & Stone Cold Assassins who one of the keen qualities that make them good at what they do is the ability to have no strings attached to anyone, whether family or friend or the fact that they already have nothing to loose or live for before signing up for the job.

Why is it so? No Compromises! They wouldn't want any untied loose ends to trace them back home or wherever they call their safe haven. You wouldn't want the countless enemies the reputation (achieved from the number of the inexplicable acts done in the past or about to carry out) have created you to get to you either directly or through the people you got the least love for & once they're out there on any job, they're Expendables. Sorry to use the word but it comes with the job so once you get caught, you're on your own. No Backups is coming & No Rendezvous whatsoever but even with all that glory & how much is expected of them, the slightest ounce of warmth in them still finds a reason to relate with a fellow human asides from the new purpose the job has given them.
You find out that even as cold & hardened he or she claims to be, the slightest warmt & soft part of them feels the need to at least find themselves in the midst of the people they're already familiar with or have someone to look out for them & then also, the need to care for someone, whether family or friend.

Nobody is a loner, that is not who we are. That wasn't the purpose of creation, we should isolate. No, I don't think so. That is not how we are meant to live & to even think the most anti social individual do talk to someone if you look very closely. Come to think of it, it's your birthday & nobody wished you well or extended any regards to you, how does it feel? Are you aware that people calling to check up on you when you're down or coming to sit beside your sick bed don't make you whole again but it helps you recover quickly. Has it ever occured to you that when the body system is less troubled emotionally, the patient responds to treatment very quickly? Apparently, physical growth & development of every human solely depends on both mental & emotional state of the being that occupies the body.

Technology made it easier for us to relate even with the ones who are not there with us present but yet, people find it hard or feel so reluctant to see that as an advantage. Most people are in their best in terms of visual contact. They communicate better anytime they're around you. Some might make you believe that they can not do without your company, while the real reason for them being around is about the things you have to offer & not what you're bringing to the table.
However, you can only know the real ones & their motives when the hill gets stoney or the road gets bumpy. You find out that communication starts breaking up, if not lost with time.

They say; "sometimes give people space, let them come to you" & I say; "be very careful when you draw that line because most people find it hard to cross over when probably, you must've left so many lines in an unimaginable amount of space & the walls you build around you gets taller". You stand the chance of loosing them for life but when nature creates one so obvious that nobody could've done anything to fill in the gaps, do very well to reach out once in a while. Technology made it easier for us to communicate so why don't we make use of what we created in the first place? Sometimes, you don't have to wait for the other party to check up on you, make the call! Send a text message if you don't have much. Do something, you don't need to prove nothing to anyone.

I keep on saying these words; "goodwill & kind gesture goes a long way in this part of the world". Individually, we all sit in a pool of problems, that make us human too but even in a world this cruel, it feels good to know that someone out there (family or friend) does have you in mind & think good of you.
Even in a world this wicked, we still got good in each of us. You don't have to knock the lights out, let it shine so someone can see the clear path that leads to you.
If you got good in you, you don't force it out, let it come out naturally. You don't have to imagine everyone in your situation before you do the least good for them. Show people you really care with your actions & not just words, it don't make you any more vulnerable than you think to any attack whatsoever or any less self preserved, you're only achieving the purpose of creation.

Reach out to someone on your contact list, extend a hand. Let them know you have their best interests in mind because you never know, one text message from you can give someone a reason to want to wake up the next day & please, let's not get the wrong impression about all these words because I'm not trying to measure the value of the company we keep or how important you might be to someone you care about but to think this pandemic is really getting a lot of people messed up in the head as we all know.
My point is, if we can change the way we think, we can do some real good in this world & this goes out to all those whom by His Grace still got their minds right in this uncertain times, it's your job to check up on others. I'm not saying you should add their problems to yours or be their knight in a shining armour, just try to know how they're holding up. Show the least regard, it won't cost a thing.

You know, someone told me something that really stuck with me. "If you're not willing to fight for what you love, then you never deversed it in the first place".
Mind you! I'm not a Preacher, I only speak from the heart. The move you're making after you read this is not for them, you're doing it for yourself because I don't know about you but I can also attest to the fact that it feels good to know you made somebody happy. It's a thing of joy to see a smile on someone's face & you're the one who out it there.

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