Love & Relationships (Besties)

For some reasons, I don't wanna keep talking about this same topic but the need for it to be heard outweighs the consequences if you make the same mistake twice.
Most people will despise me after reading this or some will say that I'm being too negative most of the time. Well to most, negative thinking makes you a pessimist but to me negative thinking means I'm being realistic & if I wasn't a victim of that circumstance then I wouldn't even bother.

Love & Relationship, Boyfriend, Girlfriend & Best friends. All involves two people having almost the same thing in common. They have each others back till one day they don't.
Love & relationship as we all know is like summer time when everything is still working out fine, the sailing is smooth till one day the road starts getting bumpy & you begin to wonder if this was the agreement or has something changed along the way?
We call it situationship, when suddenly the partner becomes a stranger to you. One way or another someone gets hurt in the end.

Now why am I saying all these? The worst kinda mistake is the ones we don't learn from, I learnt from mine. You don't have to be a victim before you realise you gon have to thread carefully.
Most of the times, the things that are being kept from you is because they still get some regards for you or maybe it isn't time yet for you to find out that you just another girl on the hit list.

I say this because we make promises & break them on a daily. Everything has consequences so be careful who you say those words to because karma is real.
Be truthful to whoever you dealing with & mind the words that come out of your mouth because most people you whisper that to will hold it against you in the end especially when suddenly you want out.

People feel the need to be loved, do not take advantage of that. If you in for the fun of it, best be real about that fact. If you are not in for a long term deal then don't make them believe you're down with them.
Nobody is gonna crucify you if you don't say "I love you too" during 1st time sex. Rather tell her you wanna respond to that when you mean it & not because she wants to hear it. It's wrong to even think that word can be used anyhow you want it.

If you must fall in love with someone, make sure they're gonna be the father or mother to your kids. High school kinda love is sweet though cos it gives you the tips. The innocence & the honesty, God I miss those days. I would give anything to take a little trip back in time, not to change anything though but to feel a couple of things twice. Then you get into college & somehow you break communications with who you were involved with, your one true love.
You wanna try something new.
You get involved with this new guy, he promises you heaven & earth.
You give him your time, energy, money & your body also, you have misunderstandings & you make up most time with sex, then what happens in the end?
I don't wanna know but the fact is, this thing called Relationship to some people is a word you give to sex you get for free & then after a long term of all the drama, you find out you're being played. (Na person daughter oo, you sef go born your own tomoro).

Your besties, the people you get to friend zone, there lies your true love. The action part of it all, loyalty, they give it all the way even without you asking for it. They always have your best interests in mind.
Never will they ever dream of hurting your feelings. People who are always there with their shoulder for you to cry on anytime love hurts.
They are always scared to tell you how much they love & wanna be there for you because they don't wanna risk loosing you. Don't get me wrong cos you might start having 2nd thoughts once that is mentioned & you might not even want to come close again.
So you see, some will rather die with the feeling than risk not having you around. They value the little time you spend with them & always wish you're not gonna come back one day with tears in your eyes for chilling with the wrong people & yet they're being underrated. What a world?

It won't cost you anything to be honest with people why you're in their lives. You must not get laid & I haven't heard that lack of sex kills.
Don't be so self centred that you only look out for yourself. Always wonder what could've been if you were in people's shoes before you take any action, it's called humanity.

Love just like hate is a feeling. Lock yourself up with someone you haven't met in your life before for like let's say a week or two, the feeling kicks in & in most cases, it don't even take days to happen. Another scenario where something similar could happen is when you pass through a life threatening situation with a total stranger & you both happen to come out alive, feeling could be ignited & so many other cases I forgot to mention but don't get me all wrong because I'm not saying for this reason we shouldn't love, don't get me wrong but if you must, atleast do it for the right reasons & use your head because anything with beginning has an end to it. Not to mention, most people mistake infatuation for love which is very bad.

For some reasons I choose not to fall in love these days, I stand up in it for all I care & it don't make me less of a human. I ain't in love, love is in me. 
If you know, you know & if you don't, na you sabi. I rest my case.

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